"Here is what I need to do. Give her time and space. No pressuring. Let her come to me. Be loving but not overly available. Let her bring up our relationship. Do what works. Be there for her when she asks. Not avoid conflicts but be respectful. Continue to have good conversations with her about everything but us. Be more exciting. Have faith. Lastly - be patient. This is a marathon. Baby steps."
Dude, I think you know what you need to do, you said it all right here.
Forget about your marriage, work on your relationship, and mostly your friendship with your wife. If you do that, I think you'll be doing OK!
Don't talk about the R, just DO IT! Have fun together, and be friends. She seems open, so there'll probably be plently of time for the heavy R talk later.
Enjoy and celebrate each other as much as you can right now. If you can do that, I see that good things are in your future!
