Hi RandyH, Hey man, I'm in the very same boat. My W and I have been divorced for 1 year. We never really should have done it because we do still love and care for each other. It seems that the more I seem distant (and it is very hard) to her the more she comes to me. She has been through two relationships since our divorce, this is something she had to do, a process as I'm told. Well, I think she is finding out the grass is not greener and how much we do mean to each other. Anyway, keep the distant and "no drama" and "np pressure". Show unconditional love which means show support and respect no matter what she does and how hard it is for you. I had to endure short ski trips etc. and it was hard. But the more I focused on getting my life together the more she noticed. I don't call or initiate anything and funny enough is she had intitated everything. Get this, she left for a business trip on Tuesday and she dropped our dog off (which she hasnt all year and has just started again) and we talked about a possible re-union. I love you's were exchanged and some real trust and respect. Randy, if you two have love then let that love pull you back together. My friend told me, what broke you apart will bring you back together...I know, what? It means, the infidelity that caused a lack of trust (lack of trust) broke you apart, then building the trust again will bring you together. Unconditional love and no pressure...Let go with love...I would recommend a book by Dr Masa Goetz called, "Getting back together". It's about successful reunions where love was the underlying factor. Some couples re-married, some seperated for 4 years some for 2 years and had other relations, but they all came back because the love was always there and after time apart they experienced growth and trust again to have a better marriage. DO NOT get back together too soon, you must change distructive behavours and work on you.......Good luck and I will check back...
