Hi Baker!

I'm so happy to hear from you again. I really miss you and remember you from the very beginning of our journey. Unfortunately, the older posts back from 1999 were deleted. I wanted to go back and track how far I've come...kind of take inventory, so to speak.

I'm glad you're doing so well. My prayers go out to your sons. I was watching Dr. Phil the other day and he talked about how kids get wrapped up in the problems of the family but rarely are involved with the restoration of it. How true. We all hear that kids are resilient, but I believe differently. I think kids have amazing coping skills, but that those skills are no longer appropriate once adulthood is reached...then the problems resurface.

I know you're doing the absolute best with them! [Wink] You've had plenty of practice with that empathetic listening!

My journey has taken me to the point of total detatchment...not even being a friend to my H. I found his friendship to be very draining. Like a black hole. It seemed that being his friend did not produce results...just more of the same behavior of the past...hanging out without giving anything of himself. I thought long and hard about the woman who basically enabled her way into a divorce. I think you were the one who pointed out her thread to me.

My own LTR...I've stated to H that I'm traveling in this direction. If he chooses to travel with me, he needs to pay for gas money as well! If he doesn't choose to travel with me, hey, we're sure going to miss you but so long!

I'm glad you're contributing on the boards again. You've always been a wonderful inspiration!