Karen: I am so glad to add you to my list of successes. I have been on the bb for 4 months, H gone for 7 months , affair going on for 9 months. He moved in with OW (Maggot) 5 months ago. SO much for the numbers. He also moved home in DEc for a week. He is nuts. There were months of anger & hostility, but all of a sudden he is starting to be nicer & helpful. I'm not sure why. I'm not sure if I trust him. I am trying to. Either he is starting to "wake up" a bit, or he is about to drop a bomb on me. Please pray for me or give any advice that might help. I have the deepest respect for those of you who hung in there & succeeded then came back to help out the rest of us who never knew their Ms were in trouble. Thanks Barb