Jenny...Finally, the last one I needed to check up on. I'm glad things still go well for you. How we all got through that horrible time is beyond me, but we did it, and if anything, I hope this thread is hope for others who might think that the end of their marriage is inevitable. I'm not sure why some of us make it and some of us don't, I only know that a marriage is a lot of hard work. It is something that must be nurtured and watched daily. People ask why I let my H stay after his affair or why I did't throw him out the first night. i guess the affair wasn't the problem, it was just a symptom, and if the problem could get solved the symptoms would go away. I, too thought we had a good, solid marriage and was so surprised when he suddenly changed his opinion of our whole life together. He never loved me, was only there for the kids, and on and on...we've all heard it before. Anyway, life is good, my eyes are open, I am taking good care of myself and I love my husband very much. And I know he loves me. So, I'm glad every one is accounted for now. I am so glad your life is progressing well. I hope all goes well with your oldest boy. I'm not sure what is happening there, but I do know what a terrible toll it takes on kids. They are not as resilient as we think they are, and boys seem to be ever so sensitive and need reassurance when thier Hero goes astray. All of a sudden, the Hero has a blemish, and it is difficult for them to understand it. Time will help as long as the family stays healthy. Lots of love and best wishes. Karen
