Re fran Do you see the difference? Alpha isn't a push over but he isn't nasty about it
It sounds like in both situations the woman was the princess and the guy was the beta, just the last guy was the nicer beta.
Beta out loud: Oh what's wrong with it the way it is? She: Long explanation about colours and what goes with what and light etc Beta thinking: she's so darned negative all the time why can't she just be happy with the colour we did two years ago.
Paint two years old is new paint to me. If it was not done right two years ago, that was the time to get it right.
Alpha convo: She: You know hon, I've been thinking I don't really like the colour in this living room any more. Alpha: I guess a change might be nice, did you have any colours in mind? Sounds like a yes man or a H being treated like the handyman to me. I am missing the alpha point.
Fran, you might like a guy like this but I am the person doing this type of work in my family w/o help.
Not to be sarcastic, but when I read this whole post, I was thinking "another woman with a princess attitude."
She: Long explanation about colours and what goes with what and light etc Lots of guys work in jobs where mismatching colors are so small of a problem it does not even compute. How about working with computers that crash, customers want things now, customers that don't want to pay a fair price or always pay the bill late.
For guys like me that work in less than perfect worlds, white or off white is a minor thing compared to what goes on at work and all of the things I do without, and make work because that is the way it is.
I can tell the difference between cream and white. Some of the other shades are not worth considering the effort to re-paint.
Me? I changed the floor tile in the entry way, installed new ceramic tile in the kitchen, I am taking down flat panel doors and installing new 6 panel doors in the house, and in the last couple of years installed all new floor covering.
I did it because I/we thought the old things were worn out or very dated, like 20+ years old.
Fran, I like a lot of things you post. My paint, pictures, window blinds, floor coverings last for more than 2 years.
So maybe the two year comment you put in the post is what bugs me. If it was good enough two years ago, changing now just seems like a waste of money and time. My W wants new things more often than I do. I pay most of the time and do most of the work.
Lou
Nobody is so important that they are the center of the universe.
