If you were posting to me,you must have me confused with someone else. I have never recommended a "Dr Phil" book or even read one.I know he is popular on the Oprah TV show and with a few posters on this board.(I've seen him a couple of times on TV...PBS)
I have other books/authors who have been helpful to in my situ and to me personally. Good luck with the Phil book,though,...it's always great to find a book that is appealing! Yes, Lily, my H of 16 yrs, at the time, told me often that he "did not love me" and "never did love me". He said he "didn't know why he had married me"... . I was not his "soulmate". He was "miserable" with me and had "to get away". Can you believe It? What a crock!!!!! Thank God I surrounded myself with my "invisible guard-all shield"(I'm dating myself,with that one) and deflected the horrendous things that came out of his mouth! I wanted to smack him,he was so outrageous. In reality, I was devastated and broken hearted.It took a tremendous toll on me in every possible way. We'll be, happily, celebrating our 19th wedding anniversary in a few months...guess he remembered why he married me. My posts are in Hopefulness, Piecing,MLC and I found mysrlf in Michele's latest book. Search my member number and you should be asble to find some info. However, I did go back and delete a lot of personal stuff following the restoration of our marriage.I started posting in spring of '99. Keep up the good work...Jenny
