Thanks, John! You are right I do need to slow down. H had d freak out last night at bedtime and talked about how he has trouble balancing doing things that make him happy and things that make me happy. He says that he feels like he should be able to make decisions based on his happiness and I should be ok with it because it makes him happy. He also mentioned not liking the fact that he has to consider me in his decisions. All this on top of EF flaring up again.
