Well, things have been a bit up and down lately and I need some more wonderful advice from you Dbers. My H and I have been busy lately and haven't been spending alot of quality time together. I mentioned yesterday that I would like for us to do something fun together soon. H said that this made him feel pressured and resentful. Later last night, H was thrwoing party for his friend and he called and told em to come up and get some food (they are all chefs). I went up there and they were all playing music (all also musicians). I was there for 30 minutes and 3 songs before H even acknowldged my existence! He had time to talk to other people but couldn't say hi to me. When he finally did, I was mad and told him why. He blew it off like I was being unreasonable and said "I was playing music and having a good time, I wasn't worried about saying hi to you"! He also told me that he wouldn't feel bad if I ignored him if I was into something or doing something that I love. I remained upset the rest of the night but didn't show it. I tried to talk to him about it on the way home and he got pissy.
Eventually the night played out with him speaking VERY loudly and pointing at my face telling me that I have to be the focus of his attention at all times (which is BS) and that I was emotionally abusing him by talking about the situation and he didn't have to take it anymore. Furthermore, he told me that I was needing him too much again and he felt smothered!
I am VERY hurt and have had just about enough of him. He has been taking pot shots at me for weeks now. He always apologizes but now I'm beginning to wonder if I am needing him too much. I think he's starting to drive me crazy again. What's the best way to handle this situation?
