It’s amazing how we see our own sacrifices, but not our spouse’s, and we feel neglected, but we don’t see our own neglect of our spouse. It occurs to me that we make sacrifices and are so busy waiting for appreciation that we don’t see the sacrifices our SO is making. And, all the while, they’re doing the same thing.
Lily,
W mentioned to me that she has had her thyroid tested. Though that seems to rule out thyroid, I guess it still doesn’t rule out hormones. TF was over at our place yesterday, and mentioned that his W isn’t affectionate enough for his liking. He supposed it was hormones. My W said she’s too young for that, and implied that the lack of libido was very hard for her (i.e.: hard on my W). In the past, W has said that she doesn’t have sexual feelings towards me, and doesn’t miss them either. I don’t know it this extends to any kind of affection. Maybe we’re just kinda brother and sister. I don’t know. At least she recognizes that this has had an effect on OR.
Hi Fille,
Thanks for dropping by. Have I changed? I guess I have, but my sitch has changed enough to allow me to change.
I have no intention of burying the past. At least not wrt the lessons I have learned. All I’m referring to is that the present is so different than the past, and I want to use the present as a reference point for building our future. I want to bury the bad feelings – both hers and mine – and I don’t want to periodically dig ‘em up, dust ‘em off, and rehash ‘em.
The past is the route we used to get where we are, but regardless of how we got here, we have to deal with the here and now.
Ca, c'est comme ça, parce-ce que c'est comme ça. C'est tout.
