Hi! Just want to lend you some support. You and I have been on these boards around the same time. And I want to commend you on your commitment to your marriage. I know it is hard that your W is still with the aliens.
Daddy you have been enabling her affair with your fixation on being a stay-at-home dad.
I second what Walkingback is saying..., can you imagine it.. when you tell your W that "Okay. You can have full custody of the kids. I will visit kids 1,3,5 and alternate weekends"... Yes, that seems like giving up on your kids.. But can you imagine, out of a sudden, your wife would have to tend to the children's needs 100%?? It will be hard! I tell you, she won't be able to cope... what, with the household chores of cleaning, cooking, laundry, coupled with screaming kids. I am sure your kids are angels..but angels sometimes do behave like devils. I mean now, when the kids act up,...daddy is there... but when daddy is not there, mommy would have to handle EVERYTHING all by herself.. ANd plus, she won't be able to go out gallavanting with OM when she has to look after the kids. yes, she can still have kids with OM, but you know how kids are...she won't be able to fully concentrate on OM. You know how us parents talk on the phone with our friends, and halfway through, the convo would be interrupted and we would be screaming at our kids?? You just have to TAKE A DEEP BREATH and let go,... and let your wife struggle with the responsibilities... Working full-time, household chores and young kids is no joke when you've not done it before...
