I know it's hard. There's only so much you can do, and that's frustrating. Ultimately, it will be your wife's decision to become emotionally intimate again. There's just no getting around that. All you can do is continue to show her that you are available for that intimacy and that it is as important to you as the physical intimacy.
I really admire you for all that you're doing to achieve those goals. Don't give up!
