Andy, Just want to let you know that I still followed your thread from time to time to see how far you have gone to “bring down the wall with the teaspoon”. It seems to me that you are getting there slowly. I’m there with you when it comes to emotional and physical intimacy issues. It might take me forever to get to that point. I’m trying to create the emotional intimacy with my wife right now and it is very hard. I don’t know how far I can go with that. My wife is somewhat open up for that but is still cautious about it.
In a sense, I think we will be dating again even though it might be awkward at first, but we will see. Like you said, “bring down the wall with the teaspoon”. In my case, I’m bringing down the wall with the toothpick because my teaspoon broke a while back and I couldn’t find the way to replace it yet. In a nutshell, sometimes I feel like giving up because it is so hard. So many times, I wasn’t even digging at all because I have no energy left to do so. I want to "bury" the past too but it is hard.
