Been all over the boards today, spouting my usual claptrap about not showcasing your changes. “Eventually your spouse will notice.” Also told someone (sorry, don’t remember who), that it’s OK to mention it, but only occasionally, and after a long period of doing it.
I’ve never been all that secretive about DB. I’ve always told W that I was changing. Trying to be a better father and H. For the kids, for W, and for me. I’ve told her that I had no intention of showcasing the behavioral changes because I know she’d just think they were for show only.
So, I’ve been doing this – sometimes not so successfully – for over a year now.
A year ago, W basically avoided me. From there, she moved to allowing me to do things with her and her friends. She would only deign to be alone with me as a “gift” such as my birthday or X-mas. Roughly once every 6 months.
Last weekend, she mentioned that we might go to a movie (possibly alone). We’ve chatted on MSN a coupla times (initiated by me), and she’s called me at work a few times. Twice today. She’s thinking that maybe we can do the movie thing tonight.
Hmmmmmmmmm….
D’ya think she might be making concessions to me… Not showcasing them… Waiting for me to notice?
