OKAY, now I'm really puzzled. Last week the kids and I were on Vacation out west. S11 called XW EVERY DAY... D15 only talked to her once. I called XW once to see how she was doing as she was sick AND it was the anniv. of our second miscarriage and I knew it bothered her. So we talked a bit about stuff and she eventually said (for the third time since the Div) that she just wanted to be cherished and to know that I REALLY wanted to be w/ her. And I said that she had never once in all these years asked how I was with the miscarriage, that she seemed to act as though she had a monopoly on grief. She just said she didn't think it mattered to me which hurt her even more... W/E. But it was a good conversation...
Now we're home and I left a note the other day that she could transfer pics of the kids on vaca. from my memory stick and then return it. Also, to please return several books (I listed them) that she had ended up w/ over the past year. Today I left a note that we had another bill from the accountant and if she would pay X amount, I'd pay the rest (I was paying more than half!) So I come home today and she left a check, (good) and three books in a bag (only one of which was on the list of books I specifically asked for...) and that was it. NO NOTE, NO, "Hey thanks for the pics..." nothing.
To her credit she did call yest. and wish me Happy Bday, but that was only because the kids left my present/card in her van and to tell me I'd get it tomorrow... So I'm curious WTF is going on. Has she detached THAT much? Is she still pissed at me b/c I DIDN'T do something? Or is she starting to think that maybe she screwed up? (doubtful) I just wonder how freakin hard it is to leave a pleasant note saying thanks...
I keep thinking I should just stay dark...and then I think I should send her the lengthy letter addressing her comment about not being cherished since she hasn't said anything about continueing that conv. even though she said she wanted to at some point... And the letter about how I felt over the past 17 years...! Plus pretty soon I'm going to get fed up enough that I'm going to tell her to get her stuff out of the house, that we are divorced, I'm not a storage facility. Whewwww. That said, it's time for some fun once I get off tomorrow AM!!!!
