Wow...I just came across this post. I am D'd now for 2 months. I don't know about the communication being better after divorced. My XW doesn't call or anything. She hasn't even called our S14. He is pretty pissed but I keep telling him that everything is about mom right now. She still loves you but has other priorities.
Anytime I talk to her she honestly turns everything into an arguement...never did this when we were married....15 YEARS DOWN THE CRAPPER!!!!!!!!!!!!!