ANS, I'm probably not even in a position to speculate about anybody else's relationship. After all, I basically don't have one at the moment. Therefore I wouldn't worry too much about I have to say.
My friend had hypo-thyroid (slowed down) rather than Hyper-thyroid (speeded up). The effects are different.
You're right. You can only work on you. I just hate to see you take everything so personally. Some stuff your W will just have to figure out on her own. I think things will work out if you can just hang in there.
My H on the other hand, is off in his own little world. Oh well...