ho, I am not ignoring the rest of your post (BTW, happy b-day to the little one. My son just turned 6 too!) but this struck me as odd.
Quote: I also have another delima. The W has been telling everyone that I am seeing somebody which is not true. There is a gal that I have been talking to on the phone for a couple of weeks but it is nothing other than chatting.
I think there have been MANY of us here who have been really quick to label that an EA and be in utter distress, thinking the world as we know it is coming to an end over less than that. Why should your sitch be any different. Marriages have ended up in shambles over less than "chatting" on the phone for a couple of weeks.
I am not trying to hang you out to dry but you have to understand that your W is looking for the retaliation. I think ALL WAS's are at some point EXPECTING us to try to "revenge date" because it seems to be the natural thing to do. To her, no matter what you SAY it is, it's you seeing someone...and maybe, using the definition of a lot of folks here, you ARE seeing someone.
That is a totally separate issue from her making things up about you. IF she is doing that, then I would hope she gets over her childish high school antics sooner rather than later. HOWEVER, are you sure she "needs to say crap to people that isn't true" or is it possibly that she just "says crap to people that SHE believes is true." Remember, where she sits, the world looks different.
Case in point. A few months back, when my W was still in her affair yet claiming that she was not, I would have SWORN that every time she left the house it was to see OM. I even told people (mainly the people here, but also the one or two real life people I talk to) that this was the case. Was that me "saying crap to people that wasn't true"? Maybe, but I SINCERELY thought it WAS true and thus, in my mind, it's NOT the same as making things up about someone with the intent to discredit or harm them in some way.
Again, I am just making sure you are not mistaking a difference in perspective for malicious attempts by your W to harm your reputation.
