Here is my sitch. All advice welcome#2

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What now? I call my children every night before they go to bed and tell them I love them and to sleep well. Last night when I called my D5 told me she did not want to come stay with me tonight that she would miss mom. She started asking me questions on the phone about my W and I being apart and that she did not want that any longer. I would like to tell her what is really happening but being so young I just don't think she would understand. Plus it is not fair to put such a burden on a child. The whole thing just ticks me off.
The W ran into a cousin the other day and told her that the family has been really treating her bad and that she is the victom in this whole mess and that I screwed the marraige up. I am just so fed up with the lies. She talks trash to everyone we know. She had an Uncle pass away a few days ago and I feel like I should attend the service but I am sure she has run me down to her whole family and I think it will be pretty uncomfortable for me. Any ideas? I live in a small town so people just feed on this kind of gossip and I keep hearing things second and third hand, but it is really upsetting.