Here is my sitch. All advice welcome#2

[Hanging__On]

Well I am here posting again. I am not sure why because I really don't have anything to update about. Although last night I seemed to open up hornets nest with the MIL. My W and had a long talk the other day and both agreed that things cannont continue the way they are. I told her I was optimistic that love could be rebuilt if we wanted to do the work. She doesn't seem to be so optimistic she thinks it can't happen so I just throw my hands in the air. It is so frustrating. Anyway I mentioned to her that we need to sit down and go over the D papers and decide how we want things to go. Well MIL calls me last night and just starts chewing my ear off about how I have not taken any of her familiy into account and all I think about is myself and I am supposed to just sit back until W decides what she wants. Well I am tired of sitting back and acting like there is no problem. Im tired of everyone trying to tell me what to do. People always feel the need to tell you there opinion of the whole. The W thinks that we should get a divorce and I am just trying to get things lined out. But guess what ? Now I am the bad guy. I am not the one who decided to betray our marraige, I am not the one who moved out to get away from all the issues. I am not the one who quit going to C. I am the one who is trying to get a life. I am the one who bought books on how to create a better marraige. I am the one who set up the C for the both of us. I am the one who begged her not to move out. It doesn't matter how hard I try she is just not interested in continuing in this marraige. But I am the bad guy.