Here is my sitch. All advice welcome#2

[Hanging__On]

Yes wise grasshopper. You are so right about the listening to what they are really saying is so important. I have been a poor listener in the past and I am trying to get better at it. The small little hints that I got along the way were not enought for me to think anything was wrong. I should have done better in that regaurd. I too hope she will become the optimist that I am when it comes to the marraige, but experience tells me that she is not ready to face her demons and her faults in all this. She thinks that I have sent this marriage down the toilet and she had nothing to do with it or she is so set in her ways that she has no intention of ever changing. I wish so deeply that she could understand that love can ber resurected and does not have to be lost forever. I just can't seem to get her on board with that ideal.