Hi HO...k women's point of view...we like man to be in auto gear (meaning man should have the initiative to do things for us women without us asking)

At your current situation maybe your wife is still angry with you for the pass years of neglect, lack of communication and attention. You have to be patient to show her that you are sincere and you are not showing her all these affection only when you realise you are losing her. Know what I mean by auto gear...don't wait till your women is packing her bag and leaving then you start showing her how important she is.

For the dinner, make is as casual as possible...don't try to give her flowers or bring her to some posh restaurant now cause we women will be thinking where are the flowers in the pass years! Warm up a little...maybe after a few outings then you surprise her with little thoughtful gifts.

Good luck and have fun!