Here is my sitch. All advice welcome#2

[Hanging__On]

Thank you for the advice monchichi. You are so right about givin attention all day long. I feel so stupid that I didn't know all this stuff before d-day. I have been complimenting the crap out of her and I don't think she believes me. I realize now how my inconsiderate nature over the last 14 years has added up to where I am today. How I wish I could go back and do things better. I wish she would give me the opportunity to show her I am changing and learning for the both of us. I am just afraid that I will never get another shot. I will have to live with that and learn to do better in the future.

As far as your situation goes. I can only tell you how I would feel safe again. Try to be as open an honest as you can possible be. Call him, text him, and let him know that you only want to be with him and no one else. Tell him what it is that you love about him. I personally enjoy intamacy and the feeling of being close. Not neccessarily ML but just laying in bed with your head on his chest and affirming your love for him could go a long ways.

I have not read all your sitch and you probably have already heard what I have mentioned but I hope in some way this helps. I have not given a whole lot of advice to people because I can't seem to get a hold on my problems. I hope you stay in touch and I will send you good thoughts. I wish my wife would come on here looking for advice and show that I mean more to her than a piece of dirt.