Here is my sitch. All advice welcome#2

[Hanging__On]

One thing that has really bothered me about the W affair is that she has told me in the past and even since this has all happend, that she didn't like having sex at all. She said she could go her whole life without it. For years I have complained about how often we would ML. I don't understand for the life of me why she would go get it somewhere else when I was at home every night and more that willing to please. She has not given me much in information about the affair except that it happened. At first she tried to tell me that is was just phone sex but when I told her she was full of crap she backed off of that lie. I guess this is the hardest thing to get my mind around on this whole thing. What are your thoughts ? Anyone else faceing similar problems? I wouldn't want to ML unless she was up for it because I never wanted her to feel like it was her duty as W. I have always wanted her to fully enjoy it as much as me.