Don’t have a lot of time to post, but I just wanna say a couple of things…
Laurin,
quote:Originally posted by Laurin: Are men all that different than women in regards to our emotional needs? Or, do we just show it differently?
I think the answer is both, and neither. There’s no doubt that there are genetic, cultural, hormonal, and a lot of other differences between men and women. These differences predispose us to act/feel in certain ways, but in the final analysis, we’re all individuals.
I don’t think we should fall into the trap of over-generalizing, but at the same time, the generalizations help us to understand, as long as we don’t jump to conclusions that “men are like this, women are like that”.
We also have to realize that these influences (and others) are not constant. If someone feels a certain way today, it doesn’t follow that they’ll feel the same way tomorrow.
Lily,
I wouldn’t dream of bringing up low libido. We had discussed it before (when she brought it up), and she did get defensive. I don’t think I can bring up the fatigue either, though. She has lotsa reasons to be tired. Stress, lack of sleep. I guess if we ever get into a discussion of her symptoms again (which include dry skin, hot flushes, moodiness, etc.), I might be able to ask her if she shouldn’t talk to her doctor about it again. But, I have to avoid anything that would look like finger-pointing.
