How many times in the past would we zip into a card store and buy one that fit the Holiday and not worry about the message inside the card? I had a hard time at Christmas and V Day finding cards that didsn't infer to much yet had a touch of my perspective on R (PMA). The one card my H bought was (he says) thrown in the trash 'cause he didn't "feel" the emotional sentiment of the card.
Appreciate that your W took the time to look at the cards. She bought it. She gave it to you.
This is good.
Andy, I don't know how long you've been reading my posts. At some point, when I'd read enough of the R books, I realized that I had been a potential WAW. Yeah, me.
I was stressed to the max, tired to the max, physically ill, and my H conflicted w me at every emotional turn. Two summers ago he hurt me to the core of my being and I emotionally shut-down. I was just going to be the mother of the children and be the wife who worked her butt off to keep us financially well-off and not get in her H's way. Unlike you, my H had stuffed years of anger and his pride wasn't about to let him try(care) to fix our M. If I hadn't shut down, H wouldn't have stepped out of our M until S graduated then he would have left. Because of the way things went H wanted the D two years early. I think that he figured that he was going to hurt me for hurting him (my withdrawal).He's the one who trashed the marriage but I'm the one who gave up first. I have to trust me to trust him so he can trust me.
Andy, sometimes you just gotta analyse things. I've been able to accept my responsibility in our current situation because I did my mental/emotional research.
Other times, you just gotta duct tape your thought processes and go with the flow.
