Hi gals,

I really appreciate your support and advice. Thank you so much!

And rayanne, you couldn’t possibly hurt my feelings. A friend who gives her honest opinion is not being hurtful. Besides, you’re not the first one to accuse me of being over-anylitical [Wink]

I guess that I analyze things because I used to brush off my W’s complaints. Many of her complaints weren’t valid, and instead of “analyzing” them, I lumped them all together, and dismissed them.

So, now that I’m listening, I take everything she says seriously. Some of her complaints are still valid, some aren’t, but I always try to do something about them. If she has a valid complaint, then I try to 180. If they aren’t valid, then I try to find ways of changing my behavior so that she won’t perceive it the same way. Just trying to change my image.

The reason I haven’t ordered the book is that if W saw it, she would think I’m trying to find ways to change her. She tried the book route on me, and I didn’t bite. I don’t want her to think I’m trying to manipulate her.

But, you’re right rayanne. W does want to make things better.

She has no sexual feelings for me, and I see no evidence of affection. She told me that she’s trying not to “lead me on.” She made a big effort to choose a neutral v-day card for that reason. That hurt so much! She told me that the reason she hurt me on v-day is so that the next one will be better.

I hope so, too.

Andy

Andy