I hope I finally have something to offer you, Andy. Gary Chapman wrote "The Five Languages of Love". It's an easy read and has quite a few words of practical advice. Dr. Harley's "10 emotional needs" is similar but not quite the approach my H and I need. Please look at it and I hope it will help you figure out how to make your wife feel loved enough that she can 'get past her hold on the past'.
I can't seem to shake the cobwebs I'm feeling from our trip to Florida. I need coffee and chocolate and sugar and my pillow. I missed our waterbed so-o-o-o-o much. I guess I'll level out in a day or so.
Good luck in your communicating in her love language!!!!!!!!!!
