When I say burying the past, of course, I’m talking about the bad stuff. I guess I’m taking that slant on it because my W is currently trying to make me aware of all of the krap I laid on her. I can’t make her bury it. That has to come from her. On the other hand, there’s not much I can do to make her think about the good times either.
I think that she felt fortunate when people did like your C. There were people who told her that I was remarkable, too. At some point, she took up with some male-bashers, who showed her the error of her ways. I also went through a depression, which confirmed this view and turned some of my supporters into detractors.
I’m not, nor have I ever been perfect. I’ve come to realize that I’ve made waaaaaaaaaaaaay too many mistakes. I’ve 180’d all over the place and W has noticed. Though she can’t admit it, she just can’t leave the pre-180 days behind. Nor can she see the positives of the pre-180 days.
Actions speak louder than words. I’ve changed my actions and they’ve been noticed. I feel it’s now time to augment the actions with words.
We’ve progressed to the point where we can discuss things. She wants to discuss things.
