Well, the roller coaster ride has brought me to my 5th thread.
I started posting my story in newcomers on Andy's Story which describes my struggles to break out of the rut by becoming the person, husband and father that I thought I was.
I made a lot of headway there, but realized that my efforts were still being misinterpreted. I was still Struggling with Perceptions.
The latest development was that after a 3-month hiatus, we decided that it was time to be more direct. We had another OR talk. Then another. As usual (for me), this brought out wild emotional swings as I tried to understand W’s perception and make her understand mine.
She gave me a litany of actions (mine) that have consequences (her word) today. She insists that she doesn’t resent these things or blame me for our current sit, but is only trying to make me understand how we got to where we are.
She has the perception that I have unresolved issues which she can’t identify, but that I need to resolve.
However, we both agree that we’ve stopped the adversarial posturing that we engaged in previously. We both feel like we’re on the same team, and as such, we should keep the lines of communications open.
We don’t agree whether or not we can bury the past. I think we must. I’ll have to convince her somehow.
