Sorry to take so long to reply. I had read your posts (thank you so much), but did not have the chance to reply until now. Wow, our H do have a lot in common it sounds like in regards to their career success.
Sky, this is what I have decided. I have decided to bury the past. I have chosen not to focus on the fact that my H had a relationship. He is home, he is home. For the most part, things are going very well. I feel very comfortable around him now, as opposed to when he first came home. He is very affectionate with me, and very loving, yet my feminine intuition tells me he is still holding back. Not because he wants to, but because he is afraid. My H was hurt as well, and I know that he does not like to feel vulnerable; hence, holding back is "safe" for him. I am very confident in time, that this barrier will no longer be.
You are very correct in saying that I must also believe that my "star" shines just as brightly as his. I also work part-time Sky, but this will be my last week at work. It has grown into a full-time responsibility which I do not want. We are also doing some redecorating, so I'll be very busy with that. The truth is, I love being home and taking care of my family. Sounds boring, but I don't care. That is where my passion is. Only this time around, I am not going to lose myself in all of that. I am going to take care of me as well (exercise, etc.).
How is everything going with you Sky? I am thinking of you always. Hope you are coping with the loss of your father okay, hoping that your H and children are a source of strength for you. Please give me an update.
KentS:
Thank you so much for your reply. I have read many of your posts to others, so it was wonderful to hear from you. I will definitely check out the KLA tapes, and I will follow that yellow brick road. Your kindness is appreciated.
Sky:
Looking forward to hearing from you again very soon.