Lisa, hon, I fired off my earlier long reply to you midway through your message--I was that eager to write--and didn't answer some questions you had.
Have not quit yet, soon though--in just a few wks I think. Many work-to-home Moms have told me they NEVER regretted it, so I'm excited about the chance. Missing dad so much and realizing more than ever how very SHORT life is and why, in the words of the old Carly Simon song, I haven't got time for the pain!!!!!
And neither do you.
How long before I felt free to give affection? Oh it was a long time. I think I was cold and standoffish for awhile. I think we finally had some huge argument where he blurted out, I did NOT come home just to quit again! and I said, amazed, You didn't?
For a very long time I simply didn't believe that he came home for me. I thought he did it for the kids.
Ok. My H is a success too. It's new and has come on in heaps. He jets here and there, is wined and dined, quoted by top news services, wears tuxes instead of sports coats, and so on. He deserves it, after working hard in the trenches, but it does something to a man. Their heads swell, let no one tell you differently. King of the jungle. And here I am, seriously wanting to drop my career--which is with a Fortune 500 company--to be a little housewife! I will have to combat the insecurity of thinking I am nobody while he travels and meets interesting people (and interesting women, no doubt). I hear you on that one.
I say the same: the more you value yourself, the more valuable you are to others. You must think yourself every bit as smart and successful and attractive as he is. Work hard on this!!!!
