Opt, OK, I'm crashing this chick party. I won't give a bunch of advice. I'll stick to 2 thoughts.
1. Try Micheles KLA tapes. The focus is on keeping your R alive rather than busting a divorce. I agree that there is no program for reconcilliation. I think a good C can help a bit. Only if the C is good. It took us two trys to find a good one.
2. Affairs are painful, trust is slow to return. At least your H was willing to share the truth with you. That is the 1st step. Now follow the yellow brick road.
