Rachael, my friend, stop the chase, as you have been told. He's confused and the harder you clutch at him, the more he will try to get away. Back off. Have come CONFIDENCE in yourself. Develop a life outside of him. In time, if he has any interest in the marriage at all (I bet he does), he will get curious and begin to lean your way.
Don't make the mistake though of dropping phoney hints about dates or things contrived to inflame jealousy. That could back fire badly while you are separated.
You need to read right away Dr. James Dobson's book LOVE MUST BE TOUGH. I'll wait while you order it on Amazon.
Did you? Good. You don't have to share all of Dobson's religious beliefs (though they sure couldn't hurt)to get the jist of what he is saying. If you ARE CONVINCED OF YOUR OWN WORTH and communicate self-respect, your mate is going to be influenced. And if you give him plenty of space--after all, that's what he wanted!--he will run out of rope soon enough.
Read the book, girlfriend. And hang in there. This is not over yet.
