Thanks-you have reiterated what everyone has been telling me but has been so HARD for me to do which is to stop pursuing him-calling him, etc. He will get together when I call but it means nothing-he is not there mentally and can give me nothing emotionally right now. He is stuck in limbo, and unitl now I have been stuck there with him. Well, not any more. I am going on-doing things spending time with friends,and my kids. He does not sit at home either but he is still angry with me as he sees me as being the source of all his unhappines. I have been so pitifully available to him he has not even had a chance to miss me. How long were you separatd? What scares me is the thought of him getting involved with someone else. He is not right now and is not the type, but the longer you are separated I feel the greater the chance of it happening? It really scares me but I am not getting anywhere by this pursuit I have have been on. So did you wait for your H to call you? DId it take him long? I am afraid it will take mine a long time because for him to call me would mean him showing me he cares and I don't think he wants me to know that right now. Since he left he has not taken any responsibility for our R at all-it has all been me trying to talk to him, entice him with sex, nothing that has made him want to come home yet. He has said he does miss being home somtimes-I was suprised he even said that! He will tell me he loves me if I ask him but I have stopped that too. Bottom line is I just have to wait-wait or him to make a move towards me. It will be hard but the other way did NOT WORK and I am takin gthe advise finally of the wise people on this bb that have been through this-my case is not different-I just thought it was. Best wishes to you with your H at home!!! Rachael
