Optomistic- I am just visiting this thread-I am usually in Midlife Crisis, but I thought I'd come over here and talk to some people who have been through it all and have had their spouse return. OF course my main question is what did you do while he was gone? Did you pursue him at all or just leave him alone? My H has been gone for 4 months and it has been very hard-He has said he will not file or D, and there is no other woman. My problem is I have not been able to let go. I will call him and plan get togethers which he will do most of the time, but there are huge walls up-he is not ready to come home-is afraid nothing will change. I have told him I will do anything to work it out, but he won't commit to anything right now. I just want to know how you handled yourself after he left and what you did or did not do to contribute to his wanting to come home? I would appreciate info you can give me! RACHAEL
