It is so great (and scary) to be here. H and I were separated for two years, H moved back 2 weeks ago. My H and I were already separated six months before I found this board (you can find me in the "We're Separated" forum), I did many backslides, and I sure don't want to screw up again, especially after working so hard (both of us) to get here!!!
My fears are: I am having a hard time believing that he is back truly for me, and not just the kids; although when we were separated, he said he would only come back for "us".
I have been reading through many of the postings here, and from what I gather, patience is the key, let the returning spouse set the pace, and don't expect too much too soon. It's all baby steps. Do I have this right? I checked out the DB book, but there is nothing in there about the reconciliation process. Does Michele's new book, Divorce Remedy, provide this? How do you build the trust, when will my anxiety go away? I thought for so long, I just want him home, I just want him home. Now he's home, and I didn't realize all the fear and anxiety that I'd be feeling. Having him home (I am so happy to have him here), is just the beginning, correct?
