Hi Loretta (aka OW!). Maybe that is what wives need to be time to time. Keeps the marriage spicey! Has your H commented on how you've changed - as far as responding to his negative behavior in an effective manner? And has HE made manyenough changes himself? I think it is wise how you made him court you for a year before allowing him back home. If my H ever decides he made a mistake and wants back a marriage with me, I hope I'd be strong enough to make him earn his way back home. I think I would.
There is no OW that I know of. My H has said he has become "spiritual" and "connected" to certain people (men and women I don't know) but nothing physical has transpired. In a way, if there was an OW then I might understand the lure but he wants out of marriage because "our dynamic doesn't work" (per him). There's always hope but at this point, I'm less concerned with him wanting me. I'm more concerned about my wanting him. What blows my mind is if I ever get involved in an R again (with him or another) how much security can one feel, after going through what we have. How comfortable were you, after that year you and your H dated, when your H finally came back home.
