Hi Win, Thanks for dropping by I feel very good about the whole situation. I am so glad I found Michele Weiner-Davis. She is an amazing lady who came to all these conclusions. I live them breath them and I am never going back.
Last night H was over extending himself with helping friends, gapping on the phone, totally invoved in everyone elses life but his own.
I noticed the steering on the car was a little off so I mentioned it to him. He went out checked the car and found the one back tire almost flat and the other needing air. He came in a was angry what have you done to the tires they are flat and bald. I said I didnt do anything I just drive the car.
I was just furious and I could have taken a strip off of him yelling getting no where like I always did. I didnt argue could tell he was in a bad mood. I told myself he has given and given to everyone else and now he has nothing to give the children and me but his miserable self. Everyone else had the nice guy.
Before I would have taken it personal. Now I set boundries. I told him calmly in the morning that I had those feelings of being treated less then everyone else. I dont like when I feel that way and I am not going to let him upset me. I need to be treated nicely and if he wanted to get angry with anyone it better not be me. The tires are 3 years old how long do you expect them to last.
He went out and checked the tires came in and said I could take his suburban to work and he would take care of the tires. He came to my work to switch vehicles. I left him a nice not in the truck thanking him for taking care of my tires. Drew a big heart with our initials in it with and arrow. Wrote Love Loretta. Would you like to go to the movies tonight? When he was in my office I locked the door and got him to sit down in my chair and I proceeded to.... He got all shy but I know he is still thinking about it. I have become the other woman. I am not prepared to give up this position. Thanks for listening, Loretta
