Hi Loretta, your story is inspirational. Sorry the OW has been causing your all grief. I could not find your orginal story but gather that you and your H were separated 3 years? You mentioned that you are still DBing, and perhaps that should be a way of life for every married couple. I'm sure there will come a time when all this levels out somehow...your H will need to work hard on the marriage equally if not moreso. Thanks for popping in on my post. I wish you the best. [Smile] -Win