Hi JeanS, We have 2 children. H called everyday and came over whenever he wanted for the 3 years. Initially it was just to talk to the children. I found DBing at the very beginning, It was actually the first book I read. I bought others to read about depression, MLC and foster children. I always came back to Micheles book. Alot of times when he called I wasnt available, went for a walk, did all the 180s it certainly wasnt easy. I made the home a happy place to be. I backslided a few times but brushed myself off and started again. I am still DBing, I really wish the game would be over, unfortunately with this person it isnt going to happen. I get more now then I ever did. I am still working on a few things. Telling H what I need to stay in this relationship and so far he has been able to fill the shoes. I have become very strong with DBing and know what I want. I wish you the best, it is a hard long road. But I feel it is the only way to go. Loretta
