Rapunzel, You are so right, I really slipped back to the old me. I dont need to do that anymore. I dont like how I feel when this happens. I did take a walk and did all my crying a ranting when Friday night came and he didnt bring home any flowers. Earlier in the day my best girlfriend came to work with a beautiful bouquet of flowers. I hid it when I got home in hopes H would pull through for me. I had to go out to take kids to youth centre. I was gone longer then I should have. Visting my Dad. When I came back to the house I put girlfriends flowers in a vase and place them on the kitchen table. H came in upstairs said where have you been so long and he saw the me putting the flowers on the table. He said why did you go and buy them, I wanted to get them for you. I just said a week has gone buy I dont want to do this anymore. It is Ok I can buy flowers anytime I want some. He was upset that I did this. He came to me later kissed me on the cheek and said the flowers are really pretty. I didnt get that comment.
Anyways on Saturday we were out and he must have gone into the florist because he came up behind me with a bunch of flowers. I was so happy. I asked him how come he bought them for me. He just said because I wanted to.
We had a great weekend, He really has changed for the very best. I cant believe this is happening. I am waiting for the bubble to burst. I want to change my thread and remove other women hanging around. I dont think that is the case at this point in time.
We are in the process of purchasing a new cottage. The house that he bought when he left us he is putting it up for sale. He has been drywalling the basement all weekend with my help. We have had lots of fun. I have to focus on the positive gains and keep my head out of the sand. Thanks Rapunzel I needed that. And you are right flowers never did come easy Ok in phone calls department. I have let him know what is exceptable for me and now I have to let it go and start living again.
Testa, it is really hard to hold back who I really am. But I know now it is smothering and I have to do it with this man. It is also to my advantage to wait becuase all the good comes my way when I do. I havnt read much on relationships when both partners have had another relationship. I wish you and your W the best of luck in reconciling. I am glad that I decided to wait. I have heard over this weekend three girlfriends who have made different choices. Children are suffering, they are into second relationship. Alot of unhappiness. I am glad I found DBing when I did or I might be in the same situation they are. Take care Rapunzel and Testa, Thanks for all your kindness, Loretta
