Hi Loretta,
this must be tough, H is back home but you still feel insecure. The flowers might be a symbol to you that he really cares, as much it is for me if my H would just wear his ring and for somebody else it might be another thing.

Remember that DBing does not stop here. PATIENCE is still the #1 rule

Doing what works, remember? Maybe you need a break and think that through and make a few notes. I fear you are backsliding in some old habits you might have had.

Was he always forgetful about flowers? (yes),
Did he always forget about calling? (maybe yes?)

Rule is, you can only control yourself; that does not change just because he is at home, working on your R.

Here is an idea: Buy some candy, like little easter eggs, and fill the vase with it. It will look decorative and you will give the message, that you have given up on the flowers and have found a new job for the vase.

Or go and buy a few flowers yourself for the weekend, because the vase looks "naked". Just don't rub it in.

Remember the basic rules of DBing, as hard as it may be to have to continue the work, but there is still a lot of tension in your R and you are starting to rub OW in his face and become nagging.

I hope you have a nice weekend and think about what I wrote. I mean it!

Rap