Find a different Horse, what I ment was change your strategy, the Horse represents your strategy (The Flowers Enigma). What's interesting is where you aee at this point. Do you slow down on DBing and return to back to you (with new idea's and behaviour) or do you continue to DB fora while. When can we stop once we are re-united? This will be your next level. When to stop DBing and the madness and return once again to a healthy relationship...another words, instead of one eye on your marriage and one eye on an exiting strategy. When does it ALL end, at one point can you focus both eyes on your marriage and feel complete trust and love again. Find that Loretta and please keep us (me) informed. All of us are pioneers through this and we all learn from others. That's the beauty of this web site, we all can learn where others are. So good luck. One suggestion, maybe at some point you need to sit down w/ H and have a very serious heart to heart. Talk about a\"are we here to stay" and "are we going to make this last forever" so you both can relax and enjoy life again....Thank you Loretta for sharing your life with us....I wish you ALL the happiness..
