Thank you for responding, it is nice to put your thoughts down so someone else can get into your head and help you sort things out.
When H wasnt home I did the same thing with no pressure and yes the monkey came into the cage several times and looked around. He is staying in the cage longer periods before he has to run again. I know I have backslided a few times when before I was so strong with DBing. It is hard when the person is right in your face and you are starting to fall in love all over again to not want to make it even better together.
You are right Testa about kicking a dead horse. I guess I have got all I am going to get out of my horse. What did you mean when you said find another horse?
Just to update you H did forget the flowers again. I didnt say anything. I think he really wants to get the flowers, but he wants it to be his idea. He wrote it down to help him remember.
We went out last night to Comedywood, had a few good laughs. We are in the process of selling our cottage another one near by. This is what I love about this man he is hard working, highly motivated and I can now add good father, loves his kids and is trying really hard with them to win their trust back again and I can also add a more affectionate and loving husband.
So you are right I have to pull back and no pressure. I guess if I can keep that one rule in my head for a h who has returned home that shouldnt be to hard.
I was continuing to not be available short calls on the phone and keeping him guessing. I think I should stop because it is giving mixed messages. I need to remember to enjoy my life and not smother him.
