This is unusual but, when we split last year she jumped into relationship..it wa up and down and back and forth..it was horrible because we really missed each other and were like fish out of water..but she was very confused...she broke up with him once but he pulled her back....then, get this...they went away on a long weekend and when she came back she said to me, I love you, no one treats me like you and how do we get this back...well, we went that week to a marriage counseller and spent time over the weekend together...that Monday evening he died of a heart attack...Well, she plunged into a deep depression not to mention 2 days later, yes 2 days our dog of 9 years whom we both adored died of pneumonia...well needless to say all that I worked for went right out the window...she was suicidal and went immediatly on anti-depressents...we clung together ...long story..she went to counselling and therapy and somewere along the line she met a therapist, I think it might have been this guys friend...anyway Nov 1st she tells me again, I love you and I see you coming home...but she clinched her fist and said, I need to do this to be complete...well, 3 weeks went by and I asked her to lunch...I knew something wasnt right because she was acting very distant...and sure enough the bomb dropped..Im seeing someone and he might be moving in....we should move on w/our lives...and it might be best if you pick up all your things...well that was the 1st of December, so I gave her space and backed off for 4 weeks until the beginning of January...well guess what...my things are still there and she missed the hell out of me over the holidays...since then she has said I need you in my life and this relationship is not what you think...I said I need more consistency and if this relationship is more than what I think then we should detach...well, she has been very consistent and our communication has improved so much...in fact I am beginning to watch our other dog and she is acting like the woman I use to know...she has stopped her medication and has changed since then....we have had breakfast together and get this, openned up a joint savings account and she gave me her credit card for emergencies...I havent questioned anything, Im just letting her do what she wants...really backing off (she responds to me better this way) and no pressure....it's just baby steps but really picking up....we do love each other very much...its just hard trying to read where she is at...my therapist Dr Goetz author of "Getting Back Together" has been my coach for 7 months and has been there for every step of the way says, that Nancy is moving closer and feeling very warm to me....but that I must continue doing what I'm doing....hell of a story huh....I like what you have done w/ giving it a year to make sure that's what H wants....Im just patanoid about what happened before...she really has been through so much...but when we talk, it's the Nancy I use to know......
