Testa, How long at a time have you gone without seeing your W. Since she left. I read a book that said it takes 6 weeks to really know if you love and miss this person in your life. I know with my H not one day went past that he didnt call us. I did go dark for 1 week at a time. On good terms saying I cant take the pain and I really need a break. This really confirmed how he felt about me and how I felt about him. He was too depressed to go longer. It seemed when I went dark the kids quickly caught on and they jumped on the band wagon and wouldnt talk with him. They at one point both crying on the couch, I cant speak to him anymore mommy it makes us to sad. I had to ask him to give us all a complete break. He said so many times he wanted to call the house, and he thought for sure the kids would call. So just an idea to start and turn the tides for you if you are constantly connected to her by phone, E-mail etc. she doesnt have to miss you.
