Hi, Yes, thinking back I remember my H in other relationship. It was almost like I became the OW and the OW became the wife with all my great DBing and 180. When H came to me and said I want to come home if you will have me. I got great advice from a counsellor friend. She said tell him he has to totally dedicate himself to me and the children for 1 year. Going through all the seasons. He worked really hard and a year to the date he came home. Now that he is home the dbing continues, we are now working on the relationship, I handled the big items like money before the year was up and some relationship handling with the kids. Now we are going day to day on issues. But I know what I want out of a relationship to be happy and if he is willing to provide this I can be extremely happy. I just posted on Marie I thing Newcomers. If you cant find it let me know and I will find it for you. Loretta
