Thank-you all for the feedback, I know now how I must handle the situation. I have been very successful at DBing my H and it has helped get in touch with who I am. So I wont be posting in the local paper, but you did make me smile.
The rest of the weekend was great as it has been for last 7 months. We went out on Sunday and Celebrated the Super Bowel. He had his arm around me not wanting to let go. Before I would have my arm around him notwanting to let go. I am enjoying my life with him, kids and friends. I look good, feel great and plan to keep my distancer position.
You are right about feeling embarrassed Kent especially because D heard her scary voice on the phone. I heard that voice a longtime ago when she called to cause trouble by saying why do you want him, I am his girlfriend. You dont need him. I just said to her, it is none of your business where my h is, I love him, His children love him and we want him home. I then hung up.( At the time I was falling out of love for him and I was just going through the motions of DBing because I wasnt sure and it was away of getting some control of the situation.) He has proved his love over and over since he came home. If he did decide to leave I know I would be OK, we would be good friends and I would just move on. I never wanted to be stuck at the anger level. That is another thing DBing has done for me.
When we were driving last night and My H was talking about the future together. Selling house and getting out of the city. I just said I have to feel secure with him before I ever make a big move like that. I said now I will be thinking when you leave work I will be wondering if she is sitting waiting for you. He said she can sit all she wants I will be just driving by. You dont have to worry about anything. I have heard that before. Thanks for listening. I was doing so well. Helping everyone on the board. I kind of felt embarassed to now tell everyone about this. I guess when a relationship ends you will always have debrie to clear out of the way. Loretta
