Hi tree. We had a little fun here while you were away. Of course, I have a warped concept of fun.
Glad to hear your Mother's Day was nice.
Didn't remember that FFC had condoned FC in H's mind. That doesn't say too much for her. And I can't blame you one bit for you not wanting him around her. Obviously, H has told you she condones it, so (knowing me) you won't be surprised to hear that maybe this is a good time to tell him why you don't want him there. Does FFC condone his fantasy or the idea that H would want someone other than you? (Maybe, FFC has a fantasy crush on H. - Phoe, that is the type of thing that justs pops into my head!) I don't think I like FFC!
What exactly is the nature of the work to do with FFC? And what (other than the obvious) do you need for him to do at home?
Ultimately, you have to decide what it is that will work for your marriage. But, I am a firm believer that there is no time like the present.
tree, the reason that I think the way I do in your situation is because I knew a guy once who sat on the fence until his marriage was over. The pain that he felt over that (and still feels) is excruciating. Only one time can I think of a situation where his wife told him to do something in no uncertain terms and he reacted as she wished. Everything else fell by the wayside. He lived in his own little world for almost 15 years. And when he finally showed signs of coming out, she was gone.
One other thing, if you get a chance to visit with me someday off the board, I would like to ask you a few software industry questions.
